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A Marriage Checklist

September 14, 2021

Today I'd like for us to talk about marriage. This is actually one of my favorite topics to talk about...maybe because mine was so difficult for the first few years. There's a story for another day! 

But it turns out if you struggle a lot in your marriage and have to do the really intense kind of marriage counseling, you learn a thing or two.

It seems like most of the time, if someone is frustrated by failed expectations or having a difficult time connecting with their spouse, they want a simple "check the box" solution, which oftentimes doesn't exist.

However, today, I have such a checklist. I have a list of three things you can do today that should bring new connection and emotional intimacy to your marriage. The may sound simple, but if you were able to practice them every day for the next week, you'd be amazed by the potential transformation. 

✅ Be kind. (It's so often true we are more pleasant to strangers than the one we made a lifelong commitment to.)

✅ Be focused. (This may require putting your phone in airplane mode for an hour each evening.)

✅ Be honest. (Nobody wants to be intimate (physically or emotionally) with someone they don't trust.)

Even if you aren’t sure if your spouse is willing to grow in or work on this part of your marriage, do your part. Be kind to, focused on and honest with your spouse. If you continue to put these three things into your marriage, there is very little room to drift apart.

Maybe, as you read this blog, think through and write down three ways you can take action today. And if you need help, let me know. 

Interested in making sure you continue to grow?  We are too!  Schedule time with Bob to start your journey today!